What Peanut Butter and a Leaky Tap Taught Me About Cravings

My coping mechanism has peanuts in it.

It Started Innocent Enough...

There I was, standing in the kitchen. Hair in a messy bun. Dishes piled in the sink like they were trying to win a contest. I had just finished dinner. I wasn’t hungry. At all. But then I saw it...

The peanut butter jar.

It just looked at me. Like, "Hey girl. You deserve this."

So I grabbed a spoon. Just a little. Just one spoonful. (Famous last words.)

Next thing I know, I’m standing in front of the pantry, the peanut butter jar half empty, the spoon now a shovel, and I’m wondering how we got here.

The Inner Negotiation Begins

You know that moment. The little voice in your head kicks in:

"It's protein, right?"

"At least it's not ice cream."

"You’ve had a long day. This is self-care."

Meanwhile, the adult in the room (also me) is just standing off to the side whispering, "Really? Again?"

I wanted the peanut butter. So I ate it. That was it.

Impulse won. Tap open. Water flowing.

Welcome to Stage One: I Want to, So I Will

This is the stage most of us know really, really well.

The food calls. We answer. No hesitation. No breathing room.

Like the kitchen becomes a nightclub and the peanut butter’s the DJ.

Then Came the Resistance (a.k.a. Stage Two)

So a few nights later, I tried to be good.

I saw the peanut butter. I wanted the peanut butter. But I was like, "No. Not today. I’m in control."

But guess what? That didn’t feel good either. It felt like I was standing under a waterfall trying to stop the water with my bare hands.

Exhausting. Drippy. Doomed.

I could physically stop myself from grabbing the spoon, sure. But in my head? I was still at the party.

I Thought the Problem Was the Food

So what did I do? I hid the peanut butter. I made rules. I switched to almond butter (which, let’s be honest, is just peanut butter's sad cousin).

But the cravings didn’t stop. They just... relocated. Popcorn. Toast. Chocolate chips straight from the bag.

Then one day, it hit me.

The Real Problem Wasn’t the Food. It Was the Thought Behind It.

I thought the urge meant I had to follow it.

I thought desire = action. Like, if I want it, I have to do it.

But that’s just not true. That’s just... old wiring. Habit brain.

Like a tap that no one remembers turning on.

The Shift: I Don’t Want To, So I Don’t

Today, it’s different.

The peanut butter still lives in my house (bold move, I know).

But I don’t feel pulled by it.

Because I did the work to change the way I think about it.

Now?

I can hear the whisper, laugh, and walk away. No pressure. No drama. Just... peace.

I don’t want to, so I don’t.

Tap off. Kitchen calm. Me, proud.

Want This Too? Come to My Free Webinar

I’m sharing exactly how I made that shift in my free class next week:

Stop Overeating Now... No Guilt, No Rules, No More Restarting 

When: Next Tuesday at 2PM (CEST Paris time) 

Where: Online (you can wear pajamas, I won’t judge)

Here’s what we’ll cover:

●        The 5 hidden traps that make most women overeat — you're probably stuck in at least one right now (I was stuck in all of them)

●        The 3 simple secrets that turn cravings off, even on stressful days — for good

●        How to finally eat with peace, not guilt — without giving up your favorite foods (yes, even peanut butter)

🌐 Click here to join the free webinar

This is not another diet. Not another set of rules. Just the freedom to finally turn off the tap, and stop feeling like food is your boss.

See you Tuesday?

xo

Nan